What traits are considered unattractive? Which traits are typically seen as attractive and why?

Finally, going to each-others houses to just chill as friends, not platonic friends mind you, I mean like anything goes potential friends with benefits, if I want it, but I am a shy guy, who is slow at getting messages if she does come onto me, as she literally has to tell me she wants to have sex without whispering it, just flat out say it, while muting the volume, as I never pick up on it and I am deaf over loud sounds such as music or people talking in shows, as I cannot hear whispering, unless it is loud whispering, as the only way I would pick up on it otherwise, is if she was playing with herself wearing underwear, as we were distracted playing video games where my eyes are on the screen, and she told me to sit comfortable and undress down to my boxers, and whipped out my penis through my boxers and shoved my dick in her pussy, then I would get it and instantaneously be attracted to her, going from potential relationships being there, to just a full on immediate relationship, right there and then, then I would take it seriously, attraction that just used to be sexual tension through liking her, now instantaneous attraction immediately.

I only know the male perspective on this topic alone, but know this, all men are different, these are my preferences, as not all guys share the same preferences. So here goes:

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Talking about all the men she had sex with and going into details about it, after having sex with her, I don't want to hear it. That, and trying to compare me to her exes, it makes me lose interest pretty fast. I am not one of her exes, I am new and I am a different breed of man. I am a loyalist and the adventurous type who loves the outdoors, theme parks, surfing, I love to compete for fun, and my heart is above my shoulders as I feel guilty about having sex right afterwards and feel grateful for the sex, to want to make it up by being better in bed next time we do have sex, by aiming for her sweet spot instead of just doing it normally to make up for it, so the guilt subsides, that way she doesn't feel cheated that she didn't cum too, so I hate it when they compare me, mainly because they haven't seen the full side of me yet. Given enough saved money and I will show her it.

The fastest way for a woman to get me to become attracted to her immediately instantaneously is for her to come on really strong being all “I want you inside me” sexual, and grinding her pussy on my cock through our clothes, and whipping my cock out and pulling down her pants, spitting on my dick, and shoving it in her pussy as she grinds away rough and hard, while taking off all her top clothes like a wild horny goddess wanting it all natural as it will put a visual memory in my head after we have sex three times, as I won't be able to erase the erotic image out of my head, as I constantly think about her when I am alone, as the visual memory keeps coming back, making me really horny, as by the 3rd day of masturbating thinking about her and that moment we had together, I will develope strong romantic feelings for her, so next time we have sex, I will be making love with her from the heart. I am a sucker for strong desperate erotic seduction from a woman, as my mind never forgets it, making me believe I am in love with her.

Acting like a superficial robot who is shallow and cold, no personality or character, like she is better than me.

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Kindness, going out of her way to help me, helping me cook, clean, anything really that makes my life a little easier and less stressful, out of the kindness of her heart, this touches my heart and makes me think of having children with her, as a potential woman I want to raise a loving family with, as this makes me very attracted to her. Absolutely under no circumstances will I have her do chores for me, or I will feel guilty, and have to make it up to her somehow, feeling in debted to her, and I don't want go through that, as I perfer we always do everything together so the guilt doesn't override my conscience.

Attractive traits:

Narcissism, through the “It is all about me, the whole world revolves around me and my vagina, you are shit in comparison to me” is an unattractive trait in women. If I am to get with someone, I don't want to be taken for granted, nor be seen as shit in comparison to her, it doesn't fly with me. We are equals in love with each-other or bust.

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If I do have a friend who happens to be a woman and she tells me to take off my pants and get comfortable, I will do it, thinking she just wants me to be comfortable over at her house, as I wouldn't think anything of it, as seeing her in her underwear, I would think she is just trying to be fair with me to just relax and take it easy, as sexual thoughts would pour into my mind, but I would ignore them and just play video games with her thinking she just wants me to be comfortable. If I stand up having to go to the bathroom and have an erection sticking out of my boxers, I will tell her the truth that it us a normal reaction when I am with a woman with her underwear, just to ignore it as I tuck it back in my boxers. If she asked if it is because I want to have sex with her, I won't lie and say “yes, but only if you want to, as we don't have to”, I am hung, with a big fat long uncircumcised cock, so that would likely cross her mind from the moment she saw it, so I have no doubt she would get horny thoughts while I was in the bathroom taking a piss.

Unattractive traits:

Wanting me to go join her in events, as she calls me up and invites me to go places with her. That touches my heart deeply and makes me really attracted to her, like she is inviting me to be apart of her world, therefore it makes me feel accepted and in turn making me, instead of minding my own business, want to be a part of her world, in turn making me really interested in her, feeling as though it is not the same without her, so if I show up and she isn't there, I won't feel right, like it is wrong unless she is there with me, as I feel out of place without her there, as when she is there, it completes my heart and world, it is hard to explain.

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

Talking about cum, spit, piss, poop, vomit, or any bodily fluids and excrement, as it is okay to talk about it, just don't let it be the only thing she ever talks about. I am into weirdos of women, just not those types of weirdos because it makes me subconscious of ruining my appetite. Also talking about going bald, I don't care if I date a bald woman if she has a great character and personality to boot, but for some reason whenever women mention going bald, it makes me dizzy, light headed, and completely uncomfortable, as the attraction lessens, the more she speaks about it. It makes me think of getting old, decaying away, and dying like a flowers petals, which makes me feel ill.

Talking about luxuries instead of appreciating what we have. If she wants a better things, I will get what I can manage by what I got, don't expect the very best, then get disappointed towards me because I cannot obtain it. I don't want to obtain it if that is how you are going to look at it, be happy with what you got, I may improve it if I am happy and enspired enough to, you just got to promise no matter how much the bumpy road, if I do, you will always stick by my side, because what is awaiting on that road is a large hill with lots of speed bumps of doubters and stupid people, only to play their stupid games and prove them wrong, just for them to call me an asshole and say “Welcome aboard, now get to work!”. As long as she is by my side the whole time, I will get through that hill no problem, knowing she will always say “Everything is going to be okay, I believe in you, you got this, you aren't wrong, they are for doubting you, so never give up”, as those words are enough along with a good heartfelt loving hug will get me through the threshold.